The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling

By Ellie Lisitsa

Being able to identify the Four Horsemen in your conflict discussions is a necessary first step to eliminating them and replacing them with healthy, productive communication patterns.

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By The Gottman Institute

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The Four Horsemen: Contempt

Ellie Lisitsa

Contempt is the worst of the four horsemen. It is the number one predictor of divorce, but it can be defeated. ...

The Four Horsemen: Criticism

Ellie Lisitsa

The first of the Four Horsemen, and likely the most common, is criticism. ...

The Four Horsemen: Stonewalling

Ellie Lisitsa

The last, but certainly not least, of the Four Horsemen is stonewalling. ...

How to Deal with Shame

Anna Aslanian

What story from your life makes you go into hiding? ...

Finding a Culturally-Relevant Therapist

Jenny Wang

What to ask when you need to know if this therapist is right for you ...

Moving In Together: Are You Ready?

The Gottman Institute

Learn if you’re ready to move in together, discover effective communication and conflict-resolution tips from Gottman, and build a fulfilling cohabitation ...

Therapy Isn’t Something to Be Ashamed Of

Jessica Grace

Admitting you need help is not always easy, but everyone needs help sometimes, and reaching out for help is a courageous ...

10 Things My Mom Told Me as a Kid That Give Me Confidence as an Adult

Parent Co.

My mom did so much for me growing up and still does. But more powerful than any one single thing she ...

Why Do Couples Argue?

The Gottman Institute

Learn why couples argue and how to work through all of the common reasons for relationship arguments. ...

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