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Learn essential skills to make your next relationship a successful one with this new singles workshop
Based on Dr. John Gottman’s New York Times bestseller, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, this workshop has adapted the proven Seven Principles to help singles learn the key to building successful romantic relationships
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Gottman Singles Blog
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Go for the Life Partner, Not the Prom Date
By Logan Ury
Relationships
The Person Beside You: How Intimate Relationships Shape Our Lives
By Marc Schulz
Relationships
The Truth About Expectations in Relationships
By John Gottman
Dating
Dating Anxiety: How to Move Forward
By Anna Aslanian, LMFT
Dating
How Do Gottman Principles Apply to the Dating World?
By Stacy Hubbard, LMFT
Self-help
Am I Too Traumatized to be in a Relationship?
By Anna Aslanian, LMFT
Dating
Getting to Know You: Questions to Ask Your Dating Partner
By The Gottman Institute’s
Gottman Singles Blog
Will I ever find the right person?
Yes! But not because there’s one perfect match out there. Gottman research shows that the “right person” is someone you choose by building trust, friendship, and connection regularly. Healthy relationships aren’t about luck, they’re about turning towards each other, managing conflict, and choosing your love every day.
Am I being too picky, or do I have reasonable standards?
It’s natural to want certain qualities in a partner, but lasting love depends less on checking every box and more on how you connect, communicate, and handle conflict together. Reasonable standards focus on respect, trust, and emotional safety first. Beyond that, it’s about building a strong bond, not finding perfection.
Should I focus on self-improvement instead of dating?
Self-growth and relationships go hand in hand. Investing in yourself makes you a stronger future partner. You don’t have to pick one over the other. Working on your wellbeing while staying open to connection can lead to lasting love.
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For over 50 years, the Gottman’s have been transforming relationships with proven, science-backed approaches. From helping couples reconnect to guiding clinicians in supporting their clients, their work has brought hope, healing, and deeper understanding to millions. Whether you’re building your own connection or helping others do the same, Gottman is here to guide you every step of the way.