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Ellie Lisitsa

Ellie Lisitsa is a former staff writer at The Gottman Institute. She holds a PhD in Clinical Psychology.

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Make Life Dreams Come True: Self-Discovery

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Follow this exercise where you play both the speaker and the listener to share the source behind conflict: life dreams and goals!

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Make Life Dreams Come True: Dreams Within Conflict

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Make each other's dreams come true.

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Manage Conflict: Moving Forward

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The real predictor of a relationship’s failure is a couple’s inability to manage conflict in a healthy manner and to move forward.

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Manage Conflict: Identifying Your Triggers

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Working on understanding each other’s triggers is one of the most important things that you can do to avoid hurting one another.

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Manage Conflict: The Aftermath of a Fight

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When you make repair attempts early, you can salvage the point of the conversation and create a more productive and positive outcome.

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Homework Assignment: Compromise

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Many couples fail to compromise on issues because they go about trying to compromise in the wrong way.

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Manage Conflict: The Art of Compromise

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We’ve all been in the middle of an argument that we know we cannot win, understanding that our frustration has overwhelmed all sense of perspective.

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Manage Conflict: Repair and De-Escalate

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Here are a few examples of phrases that you can use to help repair and de-escalate when conversations get tense.

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Six Tips for the Six Skills of Managing Conflict

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Sometimes you need to build up to having effective communication in your partnership. Here are the smalls steps it takes to master conflict management.

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Build a Culture of Appreciation

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Negative Sentiment Override can kill any appreciation you have for your partner. Learn how to develop an eye for your partner's good characteristics.

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The Positive Perspective: More on the 5:1 Ratio

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Watch this video of Dr. John Gottman explaining the 5:1 ratio.

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The Sound Relationship House: The Positive Perspective

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A fundamental principle of maintaining The Positive Perspective in your relationship is to let your partner influence you.

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The Sound Relationship House: Turn Towards Instead of Away

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Playful bids and enthusiastic efforts to turn towards each other result in heightened levels of positivity during conflict discussions.

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Love Quiz: Fondness and Admiration

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If life chipped away at your fondness and admiration for each other, the route to bringing them back begins with realizing how valuable they are.

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The Sound Relationship House: Build Love Maps

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Love Maps help you develop greater personal insight and a more detailed understanding of each other’s life and world.

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