Make Sure You’re
on the Same Page
Love brought you together, but expert relationship advice tells us that shared values and goals will make your love last.
Are you ready for the next step?
Prepare your relationship for the proposal,
the home, or children.
Do you and your partner want the same kind of life? Are your views on family, finances, career, or personal growth compatible?
These questions aren’t always easy, but talking about them now builds a foundation for the daily choices and big steps that follow.
In his research of over 3,000 couples, Dr. John Gottman found that it’s essential for couples to create shared meaning in their relationship. Rituals, goals, and roles bring purpose to your life together and reinforce your love for life’s ups and downs.
When partners avoid conversations about values, priorities, or future plans, it can lead to confusion and resentment down the road.
It isn’t always about agreeing on everything. It’s about understanding each other and choosing to move forward in life together.
Did you know…
Building a lasting relationship takes commitment; it’s a series of daily choices to prioritize one another.
- Dr. John Gottman
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Frequently Asked Questions
Find out how ready you are to take the next big step together.
How do we know if we’re ready for the next step?
Not everyone is going to feel 100% ready when the time comes, and that’s okay. It’s less about having everything figured out, and more about your ability to communicate openly, handle conflict respectfully, and support each other during uncertainty.
You can learn more about working through perpetual problems in several Gottman couples programs. Try the Gottman Relationship Adviser for a complete solution, or spot-check with the Dealing with Conflict Coach program.
Are these tools only for couples who are struggling?
It’s common for partners to have different comfort levels about big decisions. The most important thing is to talk openly and honestly about your hopes, fears, and dreams.
You can learn more about working through perpetual problems in several Gottman couples programs. Try the Gottman Relationship Adviser for a complete solution, or spot-check with the Dealing with Conflict Coach program.
Why are we growing apart instead of growing together?
Not at all! Many couples find Gottman resources helpful when used before major milestones or decisions to strengthen their connection and set a strong foundation for the future
The Gottman Relationship Adviser can identify what you need help with in your relationship, then provide support through exercises, videos, and skill-building tools. You can also learn clear strategies to identify and express your needs in the Feeling Seen and Heard Coach program.
Do we need to agree on everything to have a happy relationship?
Not at all. Gottman research shows that lasting relationships aren’t about total agreement, but rather understanding, respect, support, and compromise. The goal is to recognize each other’s core values and goals and find ways to support each other, even when your views may differ.
What if we avoided these big conversations until now? Is it too late?
It’s never too late! In fact, many couples don’t have deep conversations about values and life goals until they’re already facing big decisions. The good news is that it’s okay to start talking about it now. Opening up these discussions can strengthen your connection and prevent misunderstandings later on.
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What if these conversations bring up disagreements?
That’s completely normal. Talking about big life topics can stir up strong emotions, but disagreements don’t mean you’re incompatible. They mean you’re uncovering important beliefs and differences that deserve thoughtful discussion.
Get a full analysis of your relationship—including how you’re doing on turning towards bids—with the Gottman Relationship Adviser.
Or get the Gottman Relationship Coach: Feeling Seen and Heard to learn how to recognize different types of bids for connection and how to turn toward your partner more often.
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Read all about building lasting, healthy relationships in the dating and premarital section of the Gottman Relationship Blog.
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